DON’T RIDICULE, HUMILIATE OR DEMEAN

Humans are considered to be the highest living beings on the planet with the several habits they bear, of which, one of them is "to humiliate". Some humiliate directly, some indirectly. Some humiliate purposely, some with specific reasons. "He himself gets humiliated, who humiliates others intentionally". It comes into being when you try to do things that are bizarre; it comes up when you try to act superior; it happens. Most of the time people who humiliate others are the egoistic ones, the ones who think they are the only masters.

The purpose of humiliation is to degrade a person. People are mean because it is human nature. People put other people down to feel better about themselves. Everyone who feels the need to be unkind to others has some sort of insecurity. Some people are mean because they are jealous of others for some reason. Some people are mean because they want to feel higher up in the hierarchy than others. Some people are mean to others because they have had an unhappy life (this explains their behaviour but doesn't excuse it).       

Humiliation invokes strong feelings of shame and inferiority. It is more demeaning and hurtful than “taking offense” at something.  It is a painful experience and is often memorized for a long time and may lead to anxiety.

Murderous acts have been committed by people who feel humiliated over job loss and cheating spouses. Suicide is a tragic reaction to the humiliation some young people feel as a result of the bullying and taunting of others. There are cases where someone getting insulted or women facing humiliation have committed suicide. It can spur violent reactions that include revenge, suicide, murder, political uprising, war and terrorism.

Humans have many ways to slight others and humiliate them. For example: denying and  manipulating recognition, dominating, reduction in rank,increasing responsibility to find fault, being laughed at,  being given a dirty look, ridicule , unjustly forcing into a degrading position, failing to recognize the self-respect of another, disrespecting, rejecting, encouraging disgrace,  accusing falsly, losing basic personal freedoms such a mobility, access, or autonomy, intrude to find faults for further humiliations, treating as an equal by a lower stature person, etc.

Another way of humiliating someone is by treating that person like a servant: asking them to fetch something, making him perform menial tasks like making coffee, sweeping a floor or dusting an office. The message is that the boss is superior, and the worker must therefore obey their command, often in a way that offends their dignity. It doesn't matter whether you mind or not to do such tasks. It will definitely destroy the respect people have for you in the workplace. We are our brothers' keepers. There are endless consequences for shaming people into suicide. We should never forget that.

No one likes being treated like dirt. Humiliation should never be part of an evaluation directed at any employee.

There is never an excuse to ridicule, humiliate or demean another person. There is always a way to express our thoughts without demeaning the other person.  We can show our anger and disappointment without putting the other person down. Those who find it necessary to be cruel have another agenda. They may feel insecure and the only way to feel better about themselves is to make others feel bad. They may want to have power over another person or feel powerless themselves and the only way to obtain this power they seek is to take it from another.

When someone verbally attacks someone, it usually has more to do with ego than anything else. Some people want to feel superior to others and the only way for that to happen is to put the other person down. It may see\m odd to those of us who do not behave this way. Although verbal attacks are not physically harmful, they are mentally and emotionally harmful and that is just as damaging. Whatever the excuse, there is never a good reason to tear someone else down.

Make it a rule never to ridicule, humiliate or demean anyone. It doesn't matter how angry we are, there is never an excuse to treat others with disrespect. Our first priority should always be to help someone and build them up not tear them down.

God does not wish to see anyone humiliated. That is why Jesus teaches people to be humble. He does it by saying, "Humble yourself". That is not a common popular everyday teaching “Humble yourself". Never pray - "Make me humble". Just do it - humble yourself.

The Power of your words.

A careless word--may kindle strife,
A cruel word--may wreck a life,

A bitter word--may hate instill,

A brutal word--may smite & kill.

A gracious word--may smooth the way,

A joyous word--may light the day.

A timely word--may lessen stress,

A loving word--may heal & bless.

Words are real things!

They bless or they curse,

They lift up or they knock down,

They save or they damn!

"But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the Day of Judgment for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned." (Matthew 12:36-37)

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